Friend of $ingle Ladies A sent this link long ago -
http://wamu.org/programs/dr/10/02/10.php#31804
Interesting podcast on internet dating. Pause your Pandoras, plug in those headphones, and check it out!
Date #3 with lawyerboy tonight. He called last night to set it up. Heart that he takes charge, picking the place before he'd even picked up the phone. But, accommodating as it's in my neighborhood and he got my help on the time. Obvs I put him on speakerphone conference so that all my co-workers could participate. Then J started giggling and I had to hang up on them. I'm also dragging him kicking and screaming into the pop culture world by insisting he "prep for court" (where he is all day today) by watching The Deep End on ABC. Discussion points will follow at dinner.
After tonight, I'll probably officially pass the sideline goal of hitting a positive ROI mark making my eHarmz journey a fiscally responsible decision. Which, unfortunately, sounded a lot less shallow to me before there was a face to that ROI...
xo,
$L#1
Friday, March 5, 2010
$L6 closes a match, feels guilty, questions her dealbreakers
OK, this is all very new and exciting, but I just closed the first match I got from someone requesting communication with me without even answering questions. Is this going to give me bad online dating karma in the future? I hope not, but I just happen to know already that if you drink alcohol only a few times a year and are self-admittedly a picky eater (enough so to put this on your dating profile), we probably won't match. Also he lived more than 15 miles away which is too far for me to do a walk of shame from in the morning. I would have to hitchhike or ride on the back of his motorcycle. No thanks!
Dear eHarmony, that wasn't your best match. Try harder.
I apparently need an alcoholic, adventurous eater who lives two blocks away,
$L6
Dear eHarmony, that wasn't your best match. Try harder.
I apparently need an alcoholic, adventurous eater who lives two blocks away,
$L6
Maybe we were too quick to judge eHarmz?
Despite all the recent success of Date Week 2010 and an addition of another $ingle Lady, I just came across this article on online daters:
http://www.cnn.com/2010/LIVING/03/05/online.dating.liars/index.html?eref=igoogle_cnn. Hopefully our matches don't turn out to be any of these guys.
Happy glorious Friday.
xo,
$L4
http://www.cnn.com/2010/LIVING/03/05/online.dating.liars/index.html?eref=igoogle_cnn. Hopefully our matches don't turn out to be any of these guys.
Happy glorious Friday.
xo,
$L4
$L6 competes with $L2 for the five eligible men in DC on eHarm
Hello, readers. I'd like to start by apologizing immediately for adding yet another number to this mix of fantabulous $ingle ladiez. I can barely keep them straight as a loyal reader so I imagine this might make things tough. Fittingly, my favorite number is 6, my birthday is 6/6, and my goal will be to go on 6 dates before my 3 months and $120 have run out. [I made a Lenten promise to Jesus to go on a date by Easter, so that was the impetus of my spur-of-the-moment decision.]
I have my own blog, which I'll shamelessly plug often (www.lifeneedsedits.com). However, my parents read that blog, and the other day I made a reference to getting a boy in your pants with this delicious chicken recipe and my mom said "Please take that down, honey." You see why I need another forum to let my honesty shine through, right?
Some things you should know about me:
1. I joined eH yesterday and already have been matched with the same doods as $L2. I can't wait to compare notes.
2. It's really hard for me to remember to turn S's into dollar signs. I'm an editor, so secretly this causes a genuine feeling of unease in my soul.
3. I've never been on a real date in my life. The thought of meeting a stranger in a bar makes my insides turn inside out and makes me want to swallow a bottle of Pepto Bi$mol.
4. I use my boobs and knowledge of sports as leverage.
5. In 2010 I've been working on doing things that are generally more awesome, wild, and ridiculous than the things I did in 2009. Online dating definitely fits that resolution.
I think that's enough for now. I have 14 matches and no one is yet requesting communication with me after 24 hours. For those of you who suggest I do the first step, I'd just like to say that although I'm currently on a dating site I would still prefer if the boy pursues me (I recognize the ridiculousness of that statement). I'll wait until Sunday and then do one of these weird "ice breaker" thingies.
My foray into online dating has but one goal: To get me on a real date. I would hate to turn 25 this June without ever going on a first date or having a sweet horrible bad dating story to tell my grandchildren when I regale them with the fairy tale that will be "How I Met Your Poppy." No one will ever find me and love me if I'm laying in bed eating Cheez-Itz on a Saturday night, so here we go.
Cheer$,
$L6
I have my own blog, which I'll shamelessly plug often (www.lifeneedsedits.com). However, my parents read that blog, and the other day I made a reference to getting a boy in your pants with this delicious chicken recipe and my mom said "Please take that down, honey." You see why I need another forum to let my honesty shine through, right?
Some things you should know about me:
1. I joined eH yesterday and already have been matched with the same doods as $L2. I can't wait to compare notes.
2. It's really hard for me to remember to turn S's into dollar signs. I'm an editor, so secretly this causes a genuine feeling of unease in my soul.
3. I've never been on a real date in my life. The thought of meeting a stranger in a bar makes my insides turn inside out and makes me want to swallow a bottle of Pepto Bi$mol.
4. I use my boobs and knowledge of sports as leverage.
5. In 2010 I've been working on doing things that are generally more awesome, wild, and ridiculous than the things I did in 2009. Online dating definitely fits that resolution.
I think that's enough for now. I have 14 matches and no one is yet requesting communication with me after 24 hours. For those of you who suggest I do the first step, I'd just like to say that although I'm currently on a dating site I would still prefer if the boy pursues me (I recognize the ridiculousness of that statement). I'll wait until Sunday and then do one of these weird "ice breaker" thingies.
My foray into online dating has but one goal: To get me on a real date. I would hate to turn 25 this June without ever going on a first date or having a sweet horrible bad dating story to tell my grandchildren when I regale them with the fairy tale that will be "How I Met Your Poppy." No one will ever find me and love me if I'm laying in bed eating Cheez-Itz on a Saturday night, so here we go.
Cheer$,
$L6
Thursday, March 4, 2010
$ingle lady #2 has an idea
So. I think that there should be an eHarmony-ish website for finding an SGF: sassy gay friend. My BFF made an SGF last weekend in NYC and I was really jealous. They danced the night away at the Ritz. It was magical. Last night I made a new SGF and we talked about how luxurious the pants of the Banana Repulic monogram collection are (also I met some new friends who read the blog - woo!). He talked in his fake Minnesota lady accent, and I used my alter-ego "Pearl" who is a New Jersey 65-year-old yenta. We also drank champagne (and too many other drinks when I decided the 'tender was cute).
Just like in that video, having an SGF is key. They tell you when your hair looks great, when it looks terrible, and when you're being a silly bitch. But finding an SGF isn't always easy, so I think there should be a Web site for that. Go.
Countdown to CC date!!!
SL#2
Just like in that video, having an SGF is key. They tell you when your hair looks great, when it looks terrible, and when you're being a silly bitch. But finding an SGF isn't always easy, so I think there should be a Web site for that. Go.
Countdown to CC date!!!
SL#2
$L#5's wishes are granted
So I am probably the laziest person on the face of the earth so I was pleasantly satisfied when I got an email request from Michael who rates an 8 on the SPS (slam piece scale). He said he thought eH's guided communication was awkward and wanted to know what I was up to this weekend/if I was up for getting a dRiNk. Looks like I AM participating in DW2k10! But hold the phone... I'm really scared. This is going to be totally awkward and I'm sweating in my desk chair thinking about it. OMG I'm probably going to pregame it and then over do it and be a drunk slob kabob. UGH. Also, I think I'm falling in love more and more with work buddy.
On a side note slightly related to SPS, I was listening to the radio during my morning commute and the DJ's were discussing how $L's should settle for say 7/8's and not look for that perfect 10. Their points were pretty valid which included there are NO $ingle Doods that are PERFECT 10s. Also if you are picky in your twenties, searching for that 10, you'll over look the 7/8s.... you'll enter your 30's /40's (omg i'm already stressing) and the only ones who will even look your way are 4/5's. Long story short... $Ls: there are plenty of decent $D out there that you can bring home to mom and dad... just stop being so darn picky.
And $L 4- if he's worth it, he'll understand your busy schedule and give you a second chance.
Happy Thursday,
Positive Polly $L5
On a side note slightly related to SPS, I was listening to the radio during my morning commute and the DJ's were discussing how $L's should settle for say 7/8's and not look for that perfect 10. Their points were pretty valid which included there are NO $ingle Doods that are PERFECT 10s. Also if you are picky in your twenties, searching for that 10, you'll over look the 7/8s.... you'll enter your 30's /40's (omg i'm already stressing) and the only ones who will even look your way are 4/5's. Long story short... $Ls: there are plenty of decent $D out there that you can bring home to mom and dad... just stop being so darn picky.
And $L 4- if he's worth it, he'll understand your busy schedule and give you a second chance.
Happy Thursday,
Positive Polly $L5
$ingle Lady #4 is THAT guy
Or girl in my case.
The clock reads 12:18am and I wish I could say I am just getting home from my date with Leo. Alas I have failed to participate in Date Week 2010 and am now THAT guy/girl who flakes on their date for an excuse that seems so lame.
I also had a debbie downer sort of day, I can sympathize with you $L5, so needless to say I wasn't really in the date-y mood. But we were meeting for drinks and I was definitely up for the drinks part. But I had gotten word that I had to return to the office for work tonight. I figured I could make it a short trip, but ended up leaving at 10:30. Too late for a date, leaving Leo "frustrated" as he put it in the text.
In retrospect, signing up for eH during tax season probably wasn't the best idea since my schedule is unpredictable and can't exactly make plans since I'm usually on someone else's schedule. To his credit, he was very understanding about the whole thing and already has a sense as to how my job is during this time of year. And we are both busy the next few nights so the next date is TBA and essentially the ball is in my court to make it happen since I am now THAT girl.
With that, my date outfit is wasted and I'm sure he is tallying the negative points against me already.
Datele$$,
$L #4
The clock reads 12:18am and I wish I could say I am just getting home from my date with Leo. Alas I have failed to participate in Date Week 2010 and am now THAT guy/girl who flakes on their date for an excuse that seems so lame.
I also had a debbie downer sort of day, I can sympathize with you $L5, so needless to say I wasn't really in the date-y mood. But we were meeting for drinks and I was definitely up for the drinks part. But I had gotten word that I had to return to the office for work tonight. I figured I could make it a short trip, but ended up leaving at 10:30. Too late for a date, leaving Leo "frustrated" as he put it in the text.
In retrospect, signing up for eH during tax season probably wasn't the best idea since my schedule is unpredictable and can't exactly make plans since I'm usually on someone else's schedule. To his credit, he was very understanding about the whole thing and already has a sense as to how my job is during this time of year. And we are both busy the next few nights so the next date is TBA and essentially the ball is in my court to make it happen since I am now THAT girl.
With that, my date outfit is wasted and I'm sure he is tallying the negative points against me already.
Datele$$,
$L #4
Wednesday, March 3, 2010
FIVE is ALIVE
Hello readers,
I signed up for eH as promised, however, I've been in some what of a rut. This weekend was just overall terrible: my exam was horrible, I received undesirable test results from the previous exam, Crate and Barrel delivered the wrong bed I ordered, I didn't cap my Dior Show mascara so it dried out, someone created an offensive twitter account for me (just kidding that shiz is hilarious)...and to top it all off the $90 for 3 months promo ended just as I was entering my CC digits. UGH. Sorry. I'm being a huge Debbie Downer. That's enough of mybitter buffalo/poor me rant.
I logged into eH Sunday night expecting a Woof Factor of 75% based on the other $ingle Ladies' experiences. To my surprise, I only had a couple Woof Jobs (that sounds nasty, I'll refrain from using that again). However, my promising Teen Wolf Tom was literally a werewolf. UGH. I responded to the suitors that sent me questions and reviewed the pics of all my matches. Seeing as there were 50 matches and I decided to peruse them at 10p on a Sunday night, I didn't do a thorough analysis of each profile. I did find some good ones.
I've been kind of disappointed that I'm not engaging in friendly banter with my suitors a la $L2, nor am I participating in Date Week2k10. However, I'm realizing this is all my fault. Partaking in eH has just made me realize that I'm a very passive person. I want things to come to me and unfold my way.
I have about 3 requests to skip guided communication and going straight to email. These boys are pretty decent too. However, I am overcome with a sense of uneasiness... similar to that feeling you got as a twelve year old when sending out your A/S/L over AOL instant messenger. After morning chatting with $L 2, I'm going to have to be more ballzy and start sending out "Ice Breakers" and engaging in the open communication email. I've got a busy evening of eH'ing ahead of me.
Boring the readers to death with her crabby pants post,
$L 5
I signed up for eH as promised, however, I've been in some what of a rut. This weekend was just overall terrible: my exam was horrible, I received undesirable test results from the previous exam, Crate and Barrel delivered the wrong bed I ordered, I didn't cap my Dior Show mascara so it dried out, someone created an offensive twitter account for me (just kidding that shiz is hilarious)...and to top it all off the $90 for 3 months promo ended just as I was entering my CC digits. UGH. Sorry. I'm being a huge Debbie Downer. That's enough of mybitter buffalo/poor me rant.
I logged into eH Sunday night expecting a Woof Factor of 75% based on the other $ingle Ladies' experiences. To my surprise, I only had a couple Woof Jobs (that sounds nasty, I'll refrain from using that again). However, my promising Teen Wolf Tom was literally a werewolf. UGH. I responded to the suitors that sent me questions and reviewed the pics of all my matches. Seeing as there were 50 matches and I decided to peruse them at 10p on a Sunday night, I didn't do a thorough analysis of each profile. I did find some good ones.
I've been kind of disappointed that I'm not engaging in friendly banter with my suitors a la $L2, nor am I participating in Date Week2k10. However, I'm realizing this is all my fault. Partaking in eH has just made me realize that I'm a very passive person. I want things to come to me and unfold my way.
I have about 3 requests to skip guided communication and going straight to email. These boys are pretty decent too. However, I am overcome with a sense of uneasiness... similar to that feeling you got as a twelve year old when sending out your A/S/L over AOL instant messenger. After morning chatting with $L 2, I'm going to have to be more ballzy and start sending out "Ice Breakers" and engaging in the open communication email. I've got a busy evening of eH'ing ahead of me.
Boring the readers to death with her crabby pants post,
$L 5
$ingle Lady #1: Maybe eHarmz is on to something?
Date numero dos with lawyerboy was a rousing success despite all the odds.
The Odds:
1) We went for sushi, which is universally recognized as the worst and most awkward date food ever, falling immediately behind giant cloves of garlic smothered in raw onions.
2) We had to wait a few minutes for our table and had a glass of wine at the bar. I hadn’t finished mine by the time we sat down so I brought it to the table. He ordered a bottle, which came while I was still demurely sipping my glass and I ended up double fisting different types of pinot grigio. So, I asked the waiter for a funnel, which he could not produce.
3) Again, with the morbid throw-my-body-in-the-river comments! Ugh, I can’t shake them. This time, he initiated most, so apparently, he’s into it. Foreshadow?
4) I don’t know anything about lawyering, and thus, couldn’t muster authentic awe when he told me then name of his law firm. In my defense, I told him this up front, and then feigned mock excitement before promptly forgetting it.
5) He told me he considered running for President but can’t because of his last name. Follow up question is, of course, what is it? (I was ready with a solid “that’s what she said” line, assuming what would follow was something totally inappropriate). Alas, it’s just complicated, and as he put it, Presidents have easy last names to remember. He’s totally right, because I couldn’t remember it (even though I promised to vote for him), and am currently employing my superb internet stalking skillz to Google the archives of his college’s athletic website to find it (Interim pause…success! Damn I'm good at this). That’s a super awkward thing to have to ask someone twice…
The Despite:
Date #3 scheduled for actual Date Night. I believe it involves us embarking on a college-style-because-I-can-drink-you-under-the-table-themed bar crawl. And you thought I was becoming a grown up…
Count it. 4 days, 3 $ingle Ladies, 4 dates. There's an equation in there somewhere that maybe lends itself to the success of this Internet Dating thing after all?
Xo,
$ingle Lady #1
The Odds:
1) We went for sushi, which is universally recognized as the worst and most awkward date food ever, falling immediately behind giant cloves of garlic smothered in raw onions.
2) We had to wait a few minutes for our table and had a glass of wine at the bar. I hadn’t finished mine by the time we sat down so I brought it to the table. He ordered a bottle, which came while I was still demurely sipping my glass and I ended up double fisting different types of pinot grigio. So, I asked the waiter for a funnel, which he could not produce.
3) Again, with the morbid throw-my-body-in-the-river comments! Ugh, I can’t shake them. This time, he initiated most, so apparently, he’s into it. Foreshadow?
4) I don’t know anything about lawyering, and thus, couldn’t muster authentic awe when he told me then name of his law firm. In my defense, I told him this up front, and then feigned mock excitement before promptly forgetting it.
5) He told me he considered running for President but can’t because of his last name. Follow up question is, of course, what is it? (I was ready with a solid “that’s what she said” line, assuming what would follow was something totally inappropriate). Alas, it’s just complicated, and as he put it, Presidents have easy last names to remember. He’s totally right, because I couldn’t remember it (even though I promised to vote for him), and am currently employing my superb internet stalking skillz to Google the archives of his college’s athletic website to find it (Interim pause…success! Damn I'm good at this). That’s a super awkward thing to have to ask someone twice…
The Despite:
Date #3 scheduled for actual Date Night. I believe it involves us embarking on a college-style-because-I-can-drink-you-under-the-table-themed bar crawl. And you thought I was becoming a grown up…
Count it. 4 days, 3 $ingle Ladies, 4 dates. There's an equation in there somewhere that maybe lends itself to the success of this Internet Dating thing after all?
Xo,
$ingle Lady #1
Tuesday, March 2, 2010
$ingle lady #2: gsuccess!
I don't have any chachy themes for this post. Through my best gchatting I have secured a second date on Thursday with CC. It is getting creepier and creepier how much we have in common. Like, Single Lady #1, you were there on New Year's Day when we filled out the questionnaire. Did I miss the question that said "What is your favorite place for chicken wings in DC?" and that is how I found this perfect match? Maybe I just don't remember answering that question. Also - we're Facebook friends now - BONUS. What a treasure trove compared to the 12 photo max on eHarmz. Also, these photo captions, yipes. The grammar is impeccable because they are approximately 2-3 sentences each. While that is strange, they are cracking me up.
In conclusion, this is DATE WEEK for the $ingle ladies. #1 tonight, #4 tomorrow, me on Thurs. WhErE u At #5??
Night,
$lady#2
$ingle Lady #4 - It's official
So it is official, I am embarking on my first eHarmz date tomorrow evening with Leo for drinks. We have been doing a fair amount of gchatting which bodes well for no awkward periods of silence tomorrow hopefully. We are meeting in his 'hood, since I am already familiar with the area. But I will be sure to provide a thorough run down of all date activities Thursday. Is it bad I am already trying to plan my go to work transition to date outfit?
eHarmz continues to be telepathic,
new matches count for the week tally: 5.
promising matches: 0.
eHarmz continues to be telepathic,
new matches count for the week tally: 5.
promising matches: 0.
Monday, March 1, 2010
$ingle lady #2: Are you laughing out loud? Really, are you??
You'll recall that in one of my earliest posts (ah when I was just a baby blogger...), I said that using the term "LOL" was a rea$on for dismissal. Well, Arthur has snuck up on me as an lol'er. I had ignored his eH message for a few weeks, because I was clearly too busy thinking of names that involve the word "crisp" (oh, apple crisp, just thought of that BOOM). But at the end of last week I realized that putting all of my eggs into one crisp basket may not be the best idea. After all, I only have one month left in my membership so I may as well get my $ worth.
So, I responded to Arthur and he was all "hey, long time no response, lol." Woof. Come on, you did not laugh out loud at your own sentence. I know you didn't. I'm all for cracking myself up, but that wasn't funny. What you mean to say is "I didn't know if you were going to respond because you left me waiting for so long and instead of just answering your email I'm going to awkwardly call you out about it and then put in an acronym that is socially used to make you know I am kind of kidding, but not really, but yes, definitely kidding." Phew.
But Arthur seems kind of nice and is cute so can I write him off for using lol seven times in one paragraph? I rationalize the reason that I don't want someone who is 'excessively overweight' (eH's term, not mine) with the fact that certain character traits usually accompany being excessively overweight, i.e. laziness, not taking pride in your appearance, etc., so I wouldn't want to date someone with those traits. But is there some character flaw that is linked to using lol? The only one I can think of is BEING REALLY ANNOYING. So we'll see.
And, I would like to point out, that sometimes when chatting with $ingle lady #5, we found ourselves in need of LOL. Because we always make each other laugh out loud. This is the purpose of the abbrev. So, instead of using LOL, we've made up our own. You are free to use them if you'd like:
-"COL" - chuckling out loud (when something is a little funny but not so funny that you're bursting out laughing)
-"PIMP" - peeing in my pants
-"APM" - almost pooing myself (reserved for the funniest of convos)
So, boys, be creative when you're laughing out loud! I'm always in the market for new shorthand. And if you're not laughing out loud, don't try to tell me you are.
Happy Monday,
$L#2
So, I responded to Arthur and he was all "hey, long time no response, lol." Woof. Come on, you did not laugh out loud at your own sentence. I know you didn't. I'm all for cracking myself up, but that wasn't funny. What you mean to say is "I didn't know if you were going to respond because you left me waiting for so long and instead of just answering your email I'm going to awkwardly call you out about it and then put in an acronym that is socially used to make you know I am kind of kidding, but not really, but yes, definitely kidding." Phew.
But Arthur seems kind of nice and is cute so can I write him off for using lol seven times in one paragraph? I rationalize the reason that I don't want someone who is 'excessively overweight' (eH's term, not mine) with the fact that certain character traits usually accompany being excessively overweight, i.e. laziness, not taking pride in your appearance, etc., so I wouldn't want to date someone with those traits. But is there some character flaw that is linked to using lol? The only one I can think of is BEING REALLY ANNOYING. So we'll see.
And, I would like to point out, that sometimes when chatting with $ingle lady #5, we found ourselves in need of LOL. Because we always make each other laugh out loud. This is the purpose of the abbrev. So, instead of using LOL, we've made up our own. You are free to use them if you'd like:
-"COL" - chuckling out loud (when something is a little funny but not so funny that you're bursting out laughing)
-"PIMP" - peeing in my pants
-"APM" - almost pooing myself (reserved for the funniest of convos)
So, boys, be creative when you're laughing out loud! I'm always in the market for new shorthand. And if you're not laughing out loud, don't try to tell me you are.
Happy Monday,
$L#2
$ingle lady #4 is in a $lump
I think its safe to say that this $ingle lady is in a eHarmz $lump. I think I realized it this week as I was perusing my matches, and I noticed that I had looked through them all and had maybe only received 2 new matches this week. Maybe I am quick to judge, but I've only been on eHarmz for a week and I think I could say I am disappointed? I mean I have one promising match in Leo (more on him later) but I have found that overall I am being paired with people who are too old, boring, or unattractive.
Even if you are 35 and say that the age difference doesn't matter, it does! Clearly if you are on eHarmz at age 35 you are looking for wife material. At age 24, I am not ready to be anyones wifey just yet. Not to mention the difference in life experience and standing is just too much and would cause problems. Secondly, I admit that eHarmz can be overwhelming to maintain, but if you are paying to subscribe to the service at least put some effort into it. Numerous matches have responded to my questions with blah answers or not even answering with the question with a "oh that's a tough one..." How am I supposed to get to know you or like you if you can't even definitively answer a question?
As a result, I've started to employ the ignore game. I just haven't advanced to the next level of communication with several of the matches after their boring responses, hoping they don't come after me again. Their profile pictures were just so-so and I kept them around to see what they had to say as far as my compelling questions. But alas, no dice. I receive mediocre answers at best that do not excite me nor make me want to get to know them any better. It's too rude to close them as a match but I will just keep them sitting in my Communicating folder for now hoping that they will disappear.
I am happy to report that Leo and I have advanced to communication outside of eHarmz! We started to exchange gmails this week and even moved to gchat. I was sure to use some of those handy gflirting tips from $ingle lady #2. It was a busy last week for me, but we are planning on meeting up this week for a drink. I have found that we have similar interests and backgrounds through our conversation (and some facebook stalking). But this is my only hopeful eHarmz match thus far, so will report back and give my date grade later this week.
Also, I'm starting to really question these 29 "Dimensions of Compatibility" that eHarmz apparently matches you on. I was paired with a guy this week who had written his profile in some other language (pig latin I think) and never drank. I'm no boozeface, but I enjoy a good drink at the end of the week. Already we are not compatible. Not to mention I can't even decipher this:
The three things which taylor is most thankful for:
Distance – If your match distance setting is at 30 or 60 miles, you may not receive matches who live 31 or 61 miles from you. We recommend setting your match distance settings to at least 120 miles to ensure you get as many quality matches as possible. I'm really not interested in traveling 120 miles to find the man of my dreams.
Drinking Preference – Relaxing this setting to 'a few times a year' or more can greatly expand your qualified matching pool. Someone who has a glass of wine occasionally at dinner or sips champagne on New Year's Eve may have classified themselves as a "drinker" – yet be acceptable to you. WHOA. So are you saying that I'm an alcoholic eHarmz for drinking "several times a week"??? I don't mind if someone doesn't drink but if I want to go out on a Saturday night and he doesn't want to because he "doesn't drink", then are we really compatible eHarmz? Also, typical first dates now are "meet for a drink." What are we going to do, meet up for "conversation?"
Hopefully I can restore my faith in eH this week after my date with Leo and hopefully some new, promising matches. Until then, it is in the doghouse.
xo,
$lumpy $ingle Lady
Even if you are 35 and say that the age difference doesn't matter, it does! Clearly if you are on eHarmz at age 35 you are looking for wife material. At age 24, I am not ready to be anyones wifey just yet. Not to mention the difference in life experience and standing is just too much and would cause problems. Secondly, I admit that eHarmz can be overwhelming to maintain, but if you are paying to subscribe to the service at least put some effort into it. Numerous matches have responded to my questions with blah answers or not even answering with the question with a "oh that's a tough one..." How am I supposed to get to know you or like you if you can't even definitively answer a question?
As a result, I've started to employ the ignore game. I just haven't advanced to the next level of communication with several of the matches after their boring responses, hoping they don't come after me again. Their profile pictures were just so-so and I kept them around to see what they had to say as far as my compelling questions. But alas, no dice. I receive mediocre answers at best that do not excite me nor make me want to get to know them any better. It's too rude to close them as a match but I will just keep them sitting in my Communicating folder for now hoping that they will disappear.
I am happy to report that Leo and I have advanced to communication outside of eHarmz! We started to exchange gmails this week and even moved to gchat. I was sure to use some of those handy gflirting tips from $ingle lady #2. It was a busy last week for me, but we are planning on meeting up this week for a drink. I have found that we have similar interests and backgrounds through our conversation (and some facebook stalking). But this is my only hopeful eHarmz match thus far, so will report back and give my date grade later this week.
Also, I'm starting to really question these 29 "Dimensions of Compatibility" that eHarmz apparently matches you on. I was paired with a guy this week who had written his profile in some other language (pig latin I think) and never drank. I'm no boozeface, but I enjoy a good drink at the end of the week. Already we are not compatible. Not to mention I can't even decipher this:
The three things which taylor is most thankful for:
- ftthtyhsrtysrtysrt
- ysrtysrtysrtysrty
- srtystreysertysertyserty
Distance – If your match distance setting is at 30 or 60 miles, you may not receive matches who live 31 or 61 miles from you. We recommend setting your match distance settings to at least 120 miles to ensure you get as many quality matches as possible. I'm really not interested in traveling 120 miles to find the man of my dreams.
Drinking Preference – Relaxing this setting to 'a few times a year' or more can greatly expand your qualified matching pool. Someone who has a glass of wine occasionally at dinner or sips champagne on New Year's Eve may have classified themselves as a "drinker" – yet be acceptable to you. WHOA. So are you saying that I'm an alcoholic eHarmz for drinking "several times a week"??? I don't mind if someone doesn't drink but if I want to go out on a Saturday night and he doesn't want to because he "doesn't drink", then are we really compatible eHarmz? Also, typical first dates now are "meet for a drink." What are we going to do, meet up for "conversation?"
Hopefully I can restore my faith in eH this week after my date with Leo and hopefully some new, promising matches. Until then, it is in the doghouse.
xo,
$lumpy $ingle Lady
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